Got Unforgiveness?

Do you keep your distance from a certain person on purpose? Hoping you don’t run into them while in public? Does the very thought of their name make you cringe? When someone brings up their name, do you give a subliminal eye roll? Suck your breath? Maybe even every memory you have of them is painful and negative. There’s no way anything good can ever come from that particular person. Leave it up to you and they will never change. If any of the above applies to you, then you might struggle with forgiveness.

I know you might think, “No not me! I don’t have unforgiveness towards anyone! I just don’t like that person. I just prefer to keep my distance.” I know. I was once there, myself. I mean after all, who wants to hear that they have unforgiveness in their heart? I had no idea I had so much pain and unforgiveness in my heart until I began to seek for a deeper relationship with God and He began to show me the matters of my heart – the good, bad, and the ugly. And boy did it get ugly! I held unforgiveness towards my mother for years. I blamed her for a lot of the pain and abuse that took place in my childhood. If you know my story, or not, I wasn’t raised by my biological mother and I searched for love in all the wrong places. I was seeking a motherly love, but then after I gave my life to Jesus, he healed me of that pain and healed my mother and I’s relationship that was non existent before hand. Sis, God knows all the crevices and every secret of your heart. According to Hebrews 4:13, “Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of God to whom we must give account.” He knows every broken piece of your heart, exactly where to find them, AND he knows how to put your heart back together again. Yes! That very thing you think nobody knows about, or that secret hatred (unforgiveness) that you are holding onto; God knows about it! There is so many of God’s children that are broken, wounded, and burdened from past hurt. God needs your best while on the battlefield! (ministry) He needs you healed, delivered, and set free! He wants you whole in Him. There is work to be done for His Kingdom.

On To Forgiving …..

1. Be honest with yourself AND God! He cannot heal someone who is in denial that they are in need of a healing. “But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” Matthew 6:15 KJV

2. Let go and get vulnerable before the Lord. Tell Him exactly how you feel, how badly you’ve been hurt and betrayed. Cry if you need to. Even tell him about those ungodly thoughts you have towards that person. (there’s actually a healing in that too)

3. Be sensitive to his spirit. If He leads you to apologize, APOLOGIZE! If He leads you to pray for that individual, PRAY! Let go of your pride, Sis! Trust me, the person that hurt you, is going on by their merry lives, while you’re stuck carrying around spiritual baggage in your heart. And I know, I know, I know you might say you have no idea what I’ve been through. Pam you have no idea how badly I’ve been hurt. Truth is, I might not know how bad you’ve been hurt, but I do know Jesus is more than able and more than willing to heal you! It doesn’t matter if it was a Mother, Father, Sister, Brother, Spouse, or Friend that hurt you! There’s no pain He can’t feel and no wound He can’t heal. Jesus is Able! “By His Stripes We Are Healed!” Isaiah 53:5 KJV

4. Last but not least, "Be still and know that I am God," Psalm 46:10 KJV. EXPECT to forgive that person that hurt you, EXPECT to be healed! That’s exactly what’s going to take place in your heart, once you give it to the Lord. Burdens are going to be lifted and you're no longer going to be bound to the weight of "unforgiveness." That person will no longer have ANY power over your life! "So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed." John 8:36

I’m so excited for you Sis!

I’m rooting for you and praying that God heals in such a mighty and miraculous way!

Jesus is just that Good,

Pamelia Walker